Step 1: Recognize and Acknowledge
So, in general, you could say that I am not much of a procrastinator, but when I do procrastinate I am an expert at it and yesterday my procrastination showed up!
I had a project I needed to complete. I had avoided it for days and I really needed to finish it for a deadline. I opened up my computer and spent about 20 minutes staring at my screen. Then, I decided that I needed a snack and then I needed a drink of water. When I returned to my computer, I thought I should check in with my team and make sure they didn’t need any assistance. Then, I figured I should take a quick peek at my email, just so there wouldn’t be any interruptions while I was working on the project! I am not sure how much time I wasted on this circus act, but it was a while! Luckily, this wasn’t my first time in the procrastination rodeo!
My procrastination reminded me of a conversation I just had last week! In this conversation, a woman asked me:
“Do you agree, that procrastination is a sign you aren’t working on your passion?”
My answer to her, and to you today, is that No, I don’t agree that procrastination is a sign you aren’t working on your passion! I think it is a sign that your inner fear and overwhelm monsters are popping in for a friendly visit!
Here are my 3 steps to taming your fear and overwhelm monsters so you can stop procrastinating and get things done!
Step 1: Recognize and Acknowledge it
The first step to move through my procrastination is to recognize and acknowledge it.
To do this, I use my journal to give whatever is causing me to procrastinate a voice. In my journal, I write what I am feeling, what I am afraid of, really anything that is coming up for me. I just let the thoughts flow and write whatever comes to mind. I don’t worry about if they are realistic or what order to write them down in. The most important part of this step is to not hide or edit what I am writing or to push it down, ignore it, or label it as wrong. I want to be open and acknowledge and recognize anything there is for me to hear.
Step 2: Connect with an Accountability Partner
I have learned that having an accountability partner is a key to moving through the procrastination!
For me, I have different accountability partners in different areas of my life. At work, I have coaches and mentors. For health and fitness, I have workout buddies, friends, and instructors. In my personal life, I have a coach and my family and friends.
Once I have acknowledged and listened to the fear and journaled all that it has to say, I can reach out to an accountability partner through a call or text or email and share what is coming up for me. Just sharing this with another person helps me get a new perspective and see my procrastination from a new angle.
I also find that the act of sharing the fear and overwhelm with someone else helps lessen its grip on me. The burden suddenly feels lighter. It is as if I said to the fear and overwhelm: It is I have heard you and I respect your opinion but I know what I need to do and I am going to do it anyway.
Step 3: Appreciate the gift
You may be asking yourself, “appreciate what gift?” Well, I believe a key to moving through fear or anything paralyzing me is to refrain from judging it and a way to do that is through appreciation or gratitude.
I am able to find appreciation and gratitude in a challenging moment because I believe that the fear and overwhelm that accompany the procrastination are clues and insights into what I desire or what I need in my life. Essentially, I recognize that they are visiting me to communicate something to me. The journaling is an important part of my ability to see what that is and to find a gift
Moving through these 2 steps allowed me to release my anxiety and stop the procrastination. I took action, and while I didn’t get as much done as I wanted, I made progress and that is worth celebrating.
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