I want to talk to you today about how to live your life intentionally and in alignment with your values. Because when you are intentionally creating a life that’s in alignment with your values, you are creating the life of YOUR dreams.
Sounds nice, right? By knowing how you want to feel and what you value, you can make decisions that take you to your dream life. I’m going to share with you my story and the journey I went through to find 4-steps that helped me create the life of my dreams.
I promise, you can use it too!
For most of my career, I was working too many hours a week. I was overtired and stressed and burned out. I was not a joy to be around and I felt that my life, my health, my family, and relationships were all suffering.
So I made a commitment to change my life. But I wasn’t sure where to begin. I didn’t know how to fill all this time. I had always filled it with work. Now, I needed to come up with ways to do things differently.
Step 1: Decide How You Want to Feel
I started by thinking about how I wanted to feel in my life and this is where the first step of creating your dream life comes in. I asked myself, what was the feeling I wanted to create?
While my current life was filled with stress and overwhelm, it was certainly not what I wanted. I really thought over what would be best for me and I decided I wanted Joy and Peace in my life.
Do you want to feel free? Joyful? In love? Listen and identify what’s tugging at your heart. Then you can evaluate what decisions are bringing you toward those feelings and what’s putting you off track.
Step 2: Determine Your Values
Then I thought about what I value in my life. I had been spending all my time on work, but that wasn’t what was most important to me. I determined I value my family and relationships above all and that was a big step.
What are your primary values? Is it your faith? Family? Job? Mission? Is your life aligned with those values? Take a good look at your weekly schedule and you’ll find out whether or not you’re giving time to what matters most.
Knowing what’s valuable in your life combined with knowing what you want to feel will guide each decision in your life as you steer toward your dream life. These two steps are the foundation of the new life you’ll build. When you see how you’ve been missing the mark, you’ll realize just how important they are.
Step 3: Make Guided Decisions
When you’re faced with a choice, you’ll know whether to say yes or no if you keep in mind your desired feelings and values. If something is going to support you to feel how you want to feel and support your values, it’s a yes. But if it’s going to make you feel stressed and lead you to sacrifice what’s most important to you, it’s a no.
Knowing I wanted joy and I wanted to share that with my family and friends gave me a framework of where to start with my time and how to make decisions on where to put my energy and what to say yes to and what to say no to.
I also realized that living the life of my dreams is not all about big stuff. Most days, it is the small things. The tiny decisions that we make every day add up to having the life we have always dreamed of.
Step 4: Fill Life with Small Traditions
I have found for me, it is small traditions I practice that create the life of my dreams and that is why I am coming to you from my front porch today!
My daughter loves Halloween and I hate it. She starts planning her costume in July, but I am not a fan of costumes or scary movies or ghost stories. But, we both love fall. Apples. Pumpkins. Sweaters. Bonfires and hikes through the leaves.
So we have created a family tradition of decorating for fall to celebrate the season and spend time together. We share the joy of picking pumpkins and displaying them. Each year it is different and sometimes we will make pieces to display around our home.
Once done, we see them every day as we enter my house. This reminds me how the life I purposefully created is the life of my dreams. I feel grateful each time I see my mums and pumpkins.
As I walk into my house each day, these pumpkins are a daily reminder of the joy and peace I want in my house. It is a reminder to celebrate that and let go of the negativity at the door and leave it outside.
Some days, I still bring negativity in. Life is hard. Full of challenges. But the people I choose to share it with deserve the best part of me. I want my family and home to have memories of joy and laughter and happiness. Small traditions remind me to leave the negativity outside of my home.
If you’re not where you want to be, that’s ok. It’s a journey and I’m here to support you however I can.